## Overview
"Falling out of love" is not a passive event that happens to couples — it is the accumulated result of failing to choose each other deliberately over time. Couples drift apart not through conflict but through neglect: days without conversations deeper than logistics, weeks without thoughtful gestures, months without dedicated reconnection time.
The minimum viable relationship investment:
- **Daily**: Conversations that go beyond routine check-ins and updates
- **Weekly**: Thoughtful gestures that remind each other of their importance
- **Monthly**: Dedicated romantic time to reconnect as lovers, not just co-managers
Love is maintained through action, not feeling. Actions cultivate feelings, not the reverse. The reassuring corollary: love can always be rekindled if both partners are willing to resume the doing.
## Source
- [[Even the best couples will eventually “fall out of love”...]] (Comfort O., January 2026)